What if urgency is the trauma, not the tool? A conversion on reclamation with Madison Abdullah
In this episode, I’m joined by Madison Abdullah, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and creative coach, and founder of Radiant Somatics for a powerful conversation about what it means to unravel urgency as a survival strategy and reclaim time as a space for safety, presence, and choice.
In this episode, I’m joined by Madison Abdullah, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and creative coach, and founder of Radiant Somatics for a powerful conversation about what it means to unravel urgency as a survival strategy and reclaim time as a space for safety, presence, and choice.
Inside the Holistic Time Practitioner Certification, Madison didn’t just learn new tools—she practiced and learned a new way of being. A way of following through without pressure. A way of working without collapse. A way of honoring her body’s truth instead of overriding it.
We talk about:
how urgency becomes embedded in the nervous system
reclaiming time as a trauma-healing practice
the difference between “doing it all” and being with what matters
letting go of internalized time pressure without losing momentum
how changing your pace changes the way you hold space for others
“I became more productive—but only after I stopped treating time like a threat.”
This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt stuck between burnout and ambition. For those who are tired of urgency—but afraid of what might happen if they actually slowed down.
Connect with Madison
https://www.radiantsomatics.com/
https://www.instagram.com/radiantsomatics/
Want to help your clients transform urgency into agency?
The Holistic Time Practitioner Certification is a 12-week live training for coaches, healers, and space holders who want to guide clients through time-related struggles without replicating urgency, shame, or extraction.
You’ll learn anti-capitalist, trauma-aware frameworks to support your clients—and yourself—in building more liberatory relationships with time, capacity, and care.
Enrollment is open now through July 31st, 2025. Learn more and join us here.
How do you stop fighting time? A conversation on trust with Soledad Paulino #096
In this episode, I’m joined by Rita-Soledad Fernández Paulino—self-care and money coach empowering BIPOC, women, and LGBTQ+ communities, founder of Wealth Para Todos, and a graduate of the Holistic Time Practitioner Certification.
In this episode, I’m joined by Rita-Soledad Fernández Paulino—self-care and money coach empowering BIPOC, women, and LGBTQ+ communities, founder of Wealth Para Todos, and a graduate of the Holistic Time Practitioner Certification.
We talk about what it felt like to move through the world with time blindness, urgency, and a deep fear that there’s never enough time. She shares what changed when she began approaching time with self-compassion and nervous system awareness.
We talk about:
carrying shame around how you use time
navigating time as a neurodivergent, chronically ill, queer, first-gen Latina
why urgency doesn’t lead to sustainability
how budgeting time (like budgeting money) created a sense of agency
how supporting clients means guiding them back to their wholeness, not their hustle
“The certification helped me realize I wasn’t lazy. I just needed a different approach.”
Inside the certification, Soledad found language and tools that shifted so much—not just for herself, but for the folks she serves. She shares how time healing helped her slow down without losing power and gave her the confidence to lead her clients with more clarity, spaciousness, and permission.
“Now I coach people in how to follow through without urgency. That changes everything.”
If you’re a coach, healer, or space holder who wants to better support clients who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or ashamed of their time habits—this episode is full of real-world insight, personal transformation, and collective care.
Connect with Soledad
Instagram: @wealthparatodos
LinkedIN: www.linkedin.com/in/wealthparatodos
Website: https://www.wealthparatodos.com
Help folks relate to time with less shame and more agency
The Holistic Time Practitioner Certification is a 12-week live training for practitioners ready to move beyond surface-level productivity advice. We offer whole self-aware frameworks for helping clients navigate capacity, urgency, and the stories they carry about time.
The next cohort is enrolling now and starts July 31st, 2025. Learn more here.
What if your pace isn’t the problem? A conversation on reclaiming capacity with Cindy Hoch
In this episode, I’m joined by Cindy Hoch—coach, facilitator, and holistic time practitioner—who shares what it means to rebuild your relationship with time from the inside out.
We talk about:
how gentle curiosity changed the way she relates to herself and her clients
what it means to honor realistic capacity
the daily practice of softening the inner judgment and meeting yourself with grace
how parenting, business, and time aren’t separate but part of the same ecosystem
and why slowing down doesn’t mean doing less
If you’re a coach, healer, or space holder who wants to help your clients navigate shame, burnout, and capacity with clarity, care, and integrity, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’m joined by Cindy Hoch—coach, facilitator, and holistic time practitioner—who shares what it means to rebuild your relationship with time from the inside out.
We talk about:
how gentle curiosity changed the way she relates to herself and her clients
what it means to honor realistic capacity
the daily practice of softening the inner judgment and meeting yourself with grace
how parenting, business, and time aren’t separate but part of the same ecosystem
and why slowing down doesn’t mean doing less
Cindy’s journey through the Holistic Time Practitioner Certification wasn’t about learning how to “do more.” It wasn’t about tools or systems alone.
It was about unlearning urgency, making space for truth, and letting her body signal when enough is enough.
“I’m not necessarily doing different things. I’m doing them differently. I’m doing them with presence.”
She found a new way to guide her clients through time-related struggles rooted in softness and trust.
If you’re a coach, healer, or space holder who wants to help your clients navigate shame, burnout, and capacity with clarity, care, and integrity, this episode is for you.
Connect with Cindy
Cindy’s current offers in English:
1:1 sessions with Holistic Time Management, Theta Healing® & Trauma-informed Coaching: https://cindyhoch.com/en/theta-healing-en/
Check out her IG and website for new offers in English.
Cindy’s current offers in German:
1:1 sessions: https://cindyhoch.com/theta-healing/
Women’s Circles: https://cindyhoch.com/frauenkreis/
Connecting to the Soul of our Work: https://cindyhoch.com/soulconnection/
Ceremonial planning session in January 2025: check out her IG for updates
Want to support your clients in building a liberatory relationship with time?
The Holistic Time Practitioner Certification is a 12-week training for practitioners who are ready to stop replicating urgency—and start practicing a new way of holding space. You’ll learn frameworks, tools, and embodiment practices to support your clients in building time practices rooted in consent, care, and capacity.
How do we help our clients follow through (especially if we struggle with it ourselves)?
If you support others through change—whether as a coach, healer, or guide—you’ve probably felt the ache when a client struggles with something you’re still navigating too.
In this episode, we explore what follow-through actually requires when we step outside dominant narratives of discipline and willpower. I share the core concepts I teach around following through without shame, hustle, or self-abandonment.
We’ll also explore what’s truly ours to hold as space holders when it comes to accountability.
If you support others through any kind of transformation, you’ve probably felt the ache when a client shares something you know all too well.
When your people get stuck, stalled, and avoid the thing they care about… you feel it in your body because you’ve been there too.
Follow-through is a common one.
As business owners, parents, space holders… we can deeply struggle with follow through, just like our people.
The good news? That means you understand and can help them.
Most of us are drawn to this work because we’re walking the path ourselves.
You don’t have to be perfect at it to support someone else. You just have to understand what follow-through actually requires. Especially in a world where people are stretched thin, punished for needing rest, or told they’re the problem when they struggle.
What follow through needs of us:
Dominant culture treats follow-through like a matter of discipline or willpower. Like if you just tried harder, focused more, pushed through, you’d “get it together.”
But that story erases and ignores the realities of being a human navigating life in a world shaped by capitalism, ableism, and supremacy.
What I’ve learned is that follow-through isn’t about forcing yourself to do the thing. It’s not about getting more done.
It’s about resourcing yourself and creating the conditions that make doing the thing feel more possible. Perhaps even easeful or joyful.
Here are the concepts that I teach to my clients around follow-through gently :
Real desire and values alignment. Wanting to do the thing because it feels true, not because you think you should, or feel like you have to. Follow-through rooted in obligation rarely sustains. But when it's aligned with your values and chosen from your wise self, it's easier to return to, even when it gets hard.
Right tools. Tools that are easy and actually help you, not what productivity culture says you should use. For me, that’s a simple Google Doc and a visual digital calendar that works with how my brain processes time.
Right expectations. A realistic plan that honors your capacity and leaves room for being human. One that can flex, include rest, and allows you to pause or pivot without being punished.
Right environment. We don’t follow through in a vacuum. We need environments and relationships that lower friction and make things easier. That might look like a quiet room, phone on Do Not Disturb, or a cozy blanket—but it also looks like access to childcare, a reliable ride, someone to co-work with, or a gym class that’s nearby and affordable.
Right internal voice. An inner voice (or thought) that’s compassionate and curious, not critical. One that believes you can try again, that cheers you on, and gives you freedom instead of shame. This voice doesn’t say, You messed this up again. It says, You’re allowed to try again tomorrow.
Right tolerance. The ability to be with discomfort (fear, doubt, frustration, boredom) without letting it take over or abandoning yourself. This is about building the inner capacity to stay with yourself when the work gets tender, messy, or uncertain.
Right identity. How we see ourselves shapes what we believe we’re capable of. If you’re still living inside the story of “I’m a procrastinator,” it’s hard to show up differently. Part of this work is letting go of that egoic label and claiming something new.
If you’re someone who holds space for others…
You might wonder: What’s actually mine to hold when it comes to follow through?
As a space holder, this is what I believe:
I’m not here to control outcomes.
I’m not here to fix someone.
I’m not here to take responsibility for someone else’s life.
I am here to help them tend to themselves.
To name the conditions that support follow-through.
To offer reflection without shame.
To hold the possibility that change is always available.
To offer accountability, if that’s what the client wants.
That’s my responsibility. The rest belongs to the client.
Helping your clients follow through deeply matters.
Helping someone follow through on what they care about interrupts shame and builds self-trust. It creates counter-evidence to the stories that say they can’t change.
It offers them a life that feels more like theirs.
That’s why it matters and why we do this work.
Want to better support yourself and your people in following through gently?
Register for the free Follow Through Gently: Helping Clients Honor Their Commitments workshop on June 24th.
Check out and enroll in this year’s Holistic Time Practitioner Certification program that starts on July 31st.
What’s really keeping my clients from taking action?
What if your clients aren’t actually procrastinating?
So many space holders are taught to treat inaction like a mindset issue or motivation gap. But the truth is, most clients aren’t stuck because they’re lazy or uncommitted.
In this blog, I explore why I don’t believe in procrastination, what might really be going on when clients struggle to follow through, and how we can support them with care instead of pathologizing.
As space holders, it’s tempting to focus on tools and strategies to help clients take action.
But if we’re not careful, we start treating the lack of action like a problem to solve.
In our world, we’re taught to treat inaction like a mindset issue or a motivation gap.
But the truth is, most clients aren’t stuck because they’re lazy or uncommitted.
What if they aren’t actually procrastinating?
In this blog, I share why I don’t believe in procrastination, take you on a closer look at what might really be going on when clients struggle to follow through, and how we can support them with care instead of pathologizing.
Procrastination isn’t real. Not in the way we’ve been taught.
In my world, I don't believe in procrastination. At all.
The word procrastination might seem harmless, but it often does more harm than good.
When we say “I’m procrastinating,” what we usually mean is: I’m bad. I’m lazy. I should be better than this. It becomes a shortcut to judgment and shame.
It frames our deeper needs and feelings as irrational avoidance.
It reinforces capitalist values of urgency and productivity. Labeling delay as “bad” assumes that faster = better, and doing = worth. It treats slowness or pause as failure.
The more we identify with a label, the harder it is to imagine another way of being. 'I procrastinate' becomes 'I am a procrastinator,' and that reinforcing belief becomes a self-fulfilling cycle.
It’s a label that flattens all the nuance of what’s really going on underneath.
Insight, change, and follow-through do not happen from this place.
That’s why I don’t even say the P word.
In most cases, what we call procrastination is actually a form of protection.
Some of the real (and completely valid) reasons our clients struggle to follow through
There is glorious untapped wisdom in everything we do, and everything we don’t do. Here are some of them:
Nervous systems are overwhelmed. The world is burning, and they’re still expected to show up like everything’s fine.
Carry shame around chronic illness, neurodivergence, or needing a different pace of care.
Don’t know where to begin, or feel pulled in too many directions to focus.
Caught in urgency culture, where everything feels like it should’ve happened yesterday.
Already holding too much. There’s no space left for more stuff.
Deep physical, mental, and/or spiritual exhaustion.
Never learned how to work with their brain and body.
Learned not to trust themselves, so every step comes with second-guessing.
Afraid of failing, of succeeding, of being seen, of getting it wrong.
Don’t have access to the resources they need: time, money, childcare, insurance, information, support, community, etc.
Have lived through experiences that made them question their worth, their voice, or their right to take up space.
Carry the trauma of living in an ableist, racist, neurotypical, cisnormative, capitalist society that prizes conformity and productivity.
None of those is procrastination. They’re needs and patterned responses to the conditions we live in. They deserve to be met with curiosity, not blame.
Most time management tools often reinforce the very shame and urgency we’re trying to relieve.
No planner or Pomodoro session can fix our nervous systems, the systems we live in, or our needs.
One, because we don’t need fixing. Two, because we need to help our people acknowledge what’s really going on underneath the surface with compassion and context.
This is where liberatory, relational, sustainable follow-through begins.
Where to go from insight?
Naming these patterns is powerful. Helping clients see the systems they’re up against and affirming that it’s not their fault is an important first step.
But if we stop there, we leave them in the burning house, aware but still overwhelmed.
Insight alone rarely changes patterns.
What actually helps is letting go of the surface task and resourcing that underlying need.
As a space holder, you can make follow through 10000x easier without any of the guilt, urgency, or shame.
That’s exactly what I’ll be teaching how to do at the Follow Through Gently: Helping Clients Honor Their Commitments Free workshop on June 24th.
This is why we created the Holistic Time Practitioner Certification.
We train practitioners who know that time is political, personal, and sacred.
Inside the certification, you’ll learn how to help your clients honor their capacity, how to untangle time from shame, and follow-through from self-worth.
You’ll learn frameworks and tools, and more importantly, how to meet your clients in these tender places.
Plus the more you honor yourself and do this work, the easier it’ll be for you to teach your people how to do the same.
Learn more about the certification and enroll here. We start July 31st.
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